Episodes
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
JumpStart - Treading Softly
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
One of the more amazing things I have learned recently is how people naturally underestimate their own force and escalate to compensate for the perceived force of others.
Check out this experiment: one person was asked to squeeze another person on the forearm.
That person was then asked to squeeze the first person back on their forearm and to do so with equal pressure.
Get it? One person squeezes. The other person feels squeezes back with equal pressure.
Simple, right?
It NEVER worked.
Why? Because researchers found that each time the squeeze was passed it INCREASED by 40% until, soon, they were squeezing each other 18 times harder than the original squeeze.
AND (this is key) the participants could not perceive the escalation in squeeze pressure.
Cool, yes. AND, more importantly, it’s something we should remember in ALL human interactions -- physical and emotional.
Today, let’s discuss how we can consciously de-escalate situations that are naturally trying to escalate.
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
JumpStart - Driving
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
Many people complain about the lack of civility on social media these days.
However, our penchant for attacking other people who are perceived to be somewhat removed from us is not a new thing.
All you have to do is look at how drivers treat one another.
One of the things I found most interesting in visiting other countries is the contrast between how we Americans and drivers from other countries use our car horns.
Today, let’s figure out if you’re a “honking idiot” or a “beeping informer” -- relax, it’s not what you’re thinking -- LOL!
To feel happier, safer, and less stressed, let’s learn to see past our metal shells into the very real person within.
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
JumpStart - The Moralization Gap
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
Here is one of the most interesting studies I have read.
In an attempt to understand people‘s motives, behavioral scientists found that the crimes we as individuals commit we consider to be “justifiable and forgivable.“
When it comes to the crimes of other people, however, we consider those to be “unprovoked and grievous.”
This explains a lot of our problems in interpersonal relationships.
When we are in an argument, we consider the things that we say to be “justifiable and forgivable;” whereas, we consider the hurtful things other people say to be “unprovoked and grievous.“
And the argument spins out of control like an ever-expanding tornado.
Each person UNDERestimates the impact of their words and deeds while they OVERestimate the impact (and negative motivations) of the other person.
How do we reset this natural tendency to make everything look askew?
Let’s talk about it, today.
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
JumpStart - Focus
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
What the HECK was going on?
It looked like kids had snuck up to my house and burned streaks onto the exterior.
Not only that, the burn marks on the house were happening more frequently and huge scorches were appearing every day or so.
The weird thing is that my security cameras weren’t catching anyone.
One day I noticed that not only were there scorch marks, the actual wall of my house was ON FIRE and in that moment, I figured out who was doing it.
In today’s message, I unveil the identity of the neighborhood pyromaniac, and I explain why he was so hard to catch.
And, most importantly, how to use his technique to dramatically improve every aspect of your life -- seriously.
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Saturday Jun 01, 2019
JumpStart - Timing
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
Saturday Jun 01, 2019
The other day I went to see my doctor for some antibiotics to treat a worsening upper respiratory infection.
“I haven’t been sick in years,” I coughed.
“I’m sorry you’re sick now,” she responded.
“Oh NO!” I croaked. “This is the PERFECT time for me to get sick. I just finished a solid month out of town doing speeches and I’ve got this entire next month off. This is great.”
“Uh huh.” She smiled a patronizing smile, obviously not getting what I was saying.
But it’s true! Haven’t you noticed that when you’re in the flow of life it’s possible to even get sick at the right time?
Today, let’s consider life’s timing and how you can use it to your advantage.
Remember to post your questions and comments -- I respond to them all personally.
BTW, you’ve probably noticed that I don’t accept outside advertising -- that’s because cool people like you share these messages with coworkers, friends, and family who will often hire me for speeches, and/or purchase my books, Complaint FreeⓇ bracelets, and online programs.
So if this post inspired you, touched your heart, or expanded your mind, please do everyone a favor and share it with at least one other person whom you think would like it as well.
Thanks!