Will Bowen Audio

Masters of Life - Part 3

Many of you know that I was NOT the person who came up with the idea of going 21 days in a row without complaining. That was Edwene Gaines In her book “The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity.” My addition was to add the purple bracelet as a mindfulness tool. Edwene Gaines is a prosperity powerhouse! She challenges our beliefs and inspires us to reach our full potential. One of my favorite quotes from her is: “Contrary to popular belief, God does not love a martyr. I should know; I played one for years.” Many of us, myself included, grew up playing the victim role. But you can’t be a martyr and also be happy, healthy, and successful. Learn to get out of the “poor me“ mindset and start creating the life of your dreams.

Masters of Life 2 - Earl Nightingale

Known as the “The Dean of The School of Motivation,” Earl Nightingale touched millions of lives.

 

And, I don’t just mean as the voice of the Jello commercials on the Jack Benny Show.

 

Nightingale’s “Strangest Secret” was the first spoken word recording ever to earn in excess of a million dollars certifying it a gold record.

 

Selecting a single quote from this prolific genius is like trying to choose your favorite star — they’re all beautiful.

 

So, let’s go with Nightingale’s most famous quote, “We become what we think about.”

 

"If we think poverty, we become impoverished” and "If we think success, we become successful” are just two extremes along the continuum touched by this universal maxim.

 

Your brain chooses your future because it chooses what you think about.

 

And to paraphrase Nightingale, “it’s the magnificent human brain that took men to moon and cured polio — and you own one (a brain) free and clear.”

 

Today, note what your thinking about and, perhaps, make better thought choices with that one of a kind brain of yours.

 

IF - Part 17

We’ve reached our conclusion of “If” by Rudyard Kipling. As a reminder, Kipling has issued a challenge. He has given us 16 things we must do to achieve the great payoff, which is: “Yours in the earth and everything that’s in it And, which is more, you’ll be a man my son.” The payoff isn’t what you get. It’s what you become. A fully-functioning, autonomous adult who is never a victim and creates his or her own way in life. You become the greatest thing a human being can become. You become free.

IF - Part 16

When I was a kid of about 9, I was rummaging through my mom’s desk and found a piece of round, flat wood. The letters TUIT” were carved in large letters in the center. After struggling to reason out what “TUIT” might stand for, I carried the small, coaster-like object to my parents bedroom where my mom sat sewing merit badges on my Scout uniform. “Mom.” I said. “What’s this?” Mom laughed. “I don’t get it.” I said. “Darling,” mom said. “That’s a 'round tuit' — get it? As in whenever you say you’ll do something whenever you get ‘around to it.’ Well, that’s a ‘round tuit.’ It reminds me that I can get around to anything that’s actually important because I already have a ‘round tuit.’ I think it was Napoleon Hill who said, “People who would never dream of killing themselves nevertheless commit suicide every day, little-by-little, by wasting their precious time.” Today is your day to have your own ROUND TUIT. "Fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds' worth of distance run."

IF - Part 15

Oh, to be so serene and secure that haters can’t hurt you, right? Someone who is a hater, a foe, an enemy — anyone who is anti-you, can cause you pain. BUT, you have far greater control over this pain than you may think. A person’s hurtful action has no power without your reaction! Have you noticed it’s actually easier to dismiss a hater because you can write them off a jerk (or worse) and ignore them. BUT, receiving a rebuke from someone you love is FAR more painful. EXAMPLE: If a homeless person on the street says something negative, you shrug. BUT, If your mom says the same thing, you sulk. To be a mature and happy adult, all people must count with us (even those who don’t look, speak, act, or live as we do) but we should not give certain people too much control over our mental reaction. Freedom comes in leveling the playing field of your mind.

IF - Part 14

Derren Brown, the Brittish mentalist recently did a documentary for Netflix where he used peer pressure in a real-life situation to convince a half-dozen people to push someone off a building to their death. That’s how much our good nature can become at risk when we identify with crowd. When we are too plugged into others, we run the risk of losing ourselves to them. When we are elevated above others, we run the risk of forgetting their struggles and challenges. "Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch," My mother-in-law migrated to this country from Cuba after the Castro invasion during which her family’s cigar factor was seized by the Castro regime. Titi, as we call her is a typical Cuban-American. She wanted desperately to come here and did so ultimately becoming a citizen of the U.S.. Now, she is virulently OPPOSED to more Cubans or any other migrants coming in. That is actually a common phenomenon of “I want in,” followed by “Hooray, I’m in,” >and finally “Now, you stay out!” and it’s a perfect example of losing the common touch. Put in simple words we must fly high and stay grounded at the same time which is difficult but doable.

IF - Part 13

You really don’t know how strong you are until life tests you. And when everything around you goes to hell you find yourself just wanting to chuck it all and run away. But you can’t. You have responsibilities, people who count on you, and so you press on — you simply endure. One of my favorite books of all time is Larry McMurtry’s Lonesome Dove. In one chapter the cowboys are moving thousands of cattle up the trail when they are beset by locusts so thick they blot out the sun. One frightened young man gallops up to the leader of the drive and cries, “Captain, whatever can we do?” “Live through it,” replied the captain. That’s life. Sometimes we just have to hold on and live through it.

IF - Part 12

Most people never attempt something because of the horror stories they’ve heard from other people.

“Careful man, women will break your heart.”

“I was in business once, I lost everything!”

“My uncle tried that line of work — no money it.”

Most people are risk averse and that aversion is reinforced by other people who have taken risks, failed, and then whined about it to anyone and everyone as a means of never getting up and trying again.

Risk and reward are the conjoined twin sisters of success.  

Great reward always involves great risk and when we fail — as we all do, whining and complaining simultaneously excuses our poor performance AND removes us from the responsibility of trying again.

The secret to success is try...fail... try...fail... try...fail...try...succeed. 

Whining about our failures only attaches us to them indefinitely.

IF - Part 11

A divorce. The death of a loved one. Business failure. The loss of a dream. Becoming disability. All of these things can bring a person to their knees and leave them emotionally shell shocked. When everything is gone, it’s hard to know where to begin and yet the answer is simply to get started. It is only when we succumb to our failures that they become concretized. As long as we are digging out we will ultimately find sunlight again and a new life that is sometime even brighter than before the tragedy.

IF - Part 10

Personally, I don’t think I could be a politician.

I’d probably say something like, “I believe that with the right combination of financial management and sensible tax cuts we can balance the budget.”

Invariably, one side of the media would report my words as, “Bowen encourages responsible financial management” while another might say “Bowen wants to raise your taxes!.”

All of this is done to “set a trap for fools.”

Bad news sells and when someone takes what we say and twists it into bad news for their own purposes, well, it hurts!

Let’s remember that there will always be haters, people who want to put a negative spin on what you do simply to excuse their own lack of accomplishment.

Maturity is learning to disregard the haters.